I fucking love the “couch of plausible deniability”. I remember reading a study which found that the men with the lowest chances of committing infidelity don’t just have the self control to not cheat; they have the self control to not even put themselves in a situation where they might be tempted to cheat. For me, I know that I’d have a really hard time not kissing girls, so I don’t make monogamous commitments to jealous guys.
Dear Captain Awkward,
I’m currently over 2 years into a poly relationship with a wonderful person. Our policy is that we’re both free to have casual sex, and we’ll treat dating people on a case by case basis. The majority of our relationship has been long distance, but I very recently moved to live a few blocks away from them.
Partner has a friend who was also known them for as long as I have. Over the course of our relationship, they’ve grown very close. Every time I heard about Friend from Partner for the first year or so, they kept assuring me they were “just friends” and that they’d never be interested in anything more with him, even though I didn’t ask for that assurance.
Then, Partner asked me if they could do nonsexual kink things with Friend, which I was okay with. This came with more assurances that…
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